He ran away because he said he had business at work he had to attend to. By. Reach out to rescue them only when they seek out help. I was induced at 7pm, and about 1am my husband decided to go home and get some sleep (I hadnt slept at all either!) On the way there, he takes a random left turn and lets me know he needs to stop at the ATM because he has no money. Every year, nearly 9,000 women in the U.S. go into labor and, unable to make it to the hospital, have an unplanned or unattended birth at home or in the car on the way to the hospital. Im sure his parents saw far more than they ever hoped to see, and Ive never let him live it down. By the time we got up to labor and delivery, I was completely dilated but my water hadnt broken. My mother, being Korean and not knowing any English had the most difficult time getting a hold of him. Sadly, this will only make things worse and nothing else. My husband was beyond perfect. This happened a few times until I fit woke him up to tell him it was time to go to the hospital. So I went about my day normally and really thought something was going on around 3pm. Pleaseselect whether I bother you once a day or once a week. This happened to my friend. For you I would give your DH a heads up if you start feeling any contractions and have him head home if they start getting regular . I walked up and down the stairs a few times to see if it was real labor. Lets just say that he ended up spending the night in the hospital with me. All I can think of is - How in the world did you get pregnant? Well, watched is a bit strong, but it was on the entire time! for fear that he would pass out. If that doesn't work,I have two thoughts. And in the US, up to thirty-eight million people have an alcohol addiction at some point in their lives. If we go anywhere and he has more than 2 drinks I drive home. My now ex husband left me home to go to army reserves for the day as i labored home alone. I had to wait nearly an hour for my epidural and was 8cm when I got it. Was. Mine wasnt nearly as bad as these more just funny. I spent the entire time in the hospital alone. around 9 he came to bed, moved me over and tried to go to sleep. My partner and I have not fought at all during our relationship, nor has he given me cause to rage. With my 1st son, my husband wanted to take a shower before we left for the hospital. It may be harsh but is needed. . My dad went out for tacos! When Orbalina Miranda went into labor with her third child at 4:30 a.m. on Tuesday, she left her two children asleep in their beds, in a relative's care, and headed to Brookhaven Memorial Hospital . She arranged transportation to the hospital from our neighbors. my parents always had a rule never to argue in front of me or my younger brother.. I said we didnt have that kind of time that Id gone from 5cm-8cm in 35 minutes. He is lucky I didnt kill him. Or even if it wasnt, theres still a little bit of schadenfreude involved isnt there? Sure, hopefully, the baby will change everything, but you still need to speak up to help him see the problem with this behavior and offer to support him as he works to change it. All parents have had to worry about this, I am sure you will be able to find someone who is willing to help you out. I mean he would have just stayed home and played video games, if I had given him the impression that Ill be okay on my own. My husband told me to breathe. "She went into labour.": she started giving birth (generally means her waters broke or she otherwise started experiencing labour pains) we're focusing on the moment the labour started (moment in time, not duration) "She was in labour for 3 hours.": we're focusing on the length of the labour (duration, not moment in time) (Dont even ask about our planning ability! It helps release oxytocin, which is the hormone that causes your uterus to contract. She told you how big he was going to be. I havent let him live that down. So, they may play the trick on you. Okay. Did you have a birth plan? For instance, Mike made me wait in the lobby of our building while he went to get a . One day shell remember to leave the meat out for tea but until then she writes beautiful and amusing posts on her blog which you can find here:http://bernmorley.blogspot.com/, i'm horrible at arguing. We have the ability to maintain our rage and hide it away for just the right amount of time so it can be released with maximum effect at precisely the right time. At 6am. took a look and her and said he was glad it was over and that she looked like a spider monkey. This will help you keep them out of trouble and save you from embarrassing situations. Around 2am, I heard the scraping of a badly manoeuvred BBQ onto the deck and felt my husband flop down beside me into the bed. My nurse who had me pushing literally would not let me catch my BREATH because she told me to push every 10 seconds..for 2 WHOLE HOURS. It wasn't until my midwife stripped the membranes at 41 weeks that I finally went into labor." 2.) (Hopefully it won't have to go there but if the nice and logical angle doens't work you may have to come on a little strong) IMO. So, that's the fvcked up part. Frankly this scares me. The only way to stop this from happening is to let your husband know that you wont tolerate any unacceptable behavior of theirs under any circumstances. Then I proceeded to time them for an hour (so he could continue sleeping). Take their thoughts and opinions into consideration before you make any decisions. This is not an average, it is the maximum recommended amount for any given day. No matter how much you date a person before marriage, some things are revealed afterward. Hoping to cure the problem. I know that if I tell him I am uncomfortable with the amount he is drinking then I know he would take me seriously. So, while I was practically under our bed from being doubled over in pain, looking at his watch, he said, I think you need to be more in tune with your body.. Unless yo ass is imoan. You can't drive yourself, and if he's been drinking that much then you are taking cab. So, I felt it and tried to ignore it. Speak to them when theyre sober and discuss setting a limit to it. Things start with a small incident and can lead to bigger uncontrollable incidences that will only bring shame to you and your family. Prodromal labor usually won't. A. I want to know how old the OP and her H are as well as the ages of some of the responders who are so sure their H's will slow down the boozehound behavior closer to their edds. A therapist or counselor will be able to help him overcome his addiction and lead a more fulfilling life. My water had broken at 6pm while I was at work, they wouldnt allow me to drive home and the doc said it was too early to come in so I waited over an hour for my now ex husband to pick me up. Oh well, possibly because it was the day before I gave birth to our 3rd child, Jack. I folded those clothes some more. men are so egomaniacal in general. When they dont have a limit, they will drink more than they need to and will surely be uncontrollable. I would be concerned about YH having 5 drinks in one night on a regular basis. My mom always tells the story of when she was in labor with my sister, on Thanksgiving Day, and somewhere around 20-so hours of labor my dad ate a full Thanksgiving dinner, turkey drumstick and all, right in front of her. My guess is that most husbands sort of enjoy seeing their wives suffering a little bit, especially if it was the wife nagging to have the child. He did later apologize. As soon as the dr left, I yelled at my hubby to get up and he acted offended! Obviously if I am in labor I will not be driving myself but I am sure once we get closer to my EDD then he will slow it down. These are hilarious! Yeah, you know, cause he was the one up since 5 am working on pushing a 10 pound baby out of his body. He thinks he's being 110% supportive, and says he will, but just drinking when I could go into labor any day is NOT supporting IMO. of theirs under any circumstances. The tendency to hide their problems is also a common characteristic among alcoholics. Must have been all that digesting he was doing :S. Im currently being induced in 9 days, my husband actually says hes going to stay home for the fucking dog! Well when it was time for my epidural, my husband went home to take a quick shower and grab a bite to eat! We checked into the hospital at 7am, they started pitocin by 8am, and he only stepped out of the room twice (to smoke :boo:) until 8pm when E was born. Hubby went home to get a good nights rest the night I got induced. Well, after 21 years we are still happily married and you have to realize that you have to take the good with the bad. Alcoholics don't just drink hard liquorWTF? That's why it's important to do the things that make you happy, such as hobbies, movies, great food - whatever floats your boat. I'm guesing it's pretty important. That's some heavy drinking. -Kate, Right after my c-section, my husband asked the nurse in the recovery room if he could just lay down on the floor, saying I promise I wont be in the way. One of the most commonly talked about signs of impending labor, many women begin cleaning and re-arranging baby items in the days or hours before labor begins. Can I Use Soju Instead Of Sake; Kentucky Sheriff Vehicle Inspection Fayette County **They're called first luddz fo' a reason -- mo' is supposed ta come after. Soon enough he gets a call from his mother asking how the delivery is going. I have to say that he was horrified. I was a journalist for five years. He then drank some juice and couldnt hold my leg while I pushed because he was still a little shaky. It sounds like you and your H are both in denial (as apparently are a few other posters on this thread). Youve done this before. Thanks for the laughs though! I wish you luckI would talk to him now about this habit! E had a little trouble at first and I needed stitches, so DH stayed with us until 2am before he ran home to let our dogs out to go to the bathroom and he never did tell me if he needed to clean anything up while he was there! As a wife of a recovering alcoholic please listen to what everyone is saying about binge drinking and alcoholism. He never slept even when I did (due to pain meds, epidural didnt work) for 27 hours. Allison Leonard/Ilona McCarty. If you are married to an alcoholic, here are seven ways to deal with the problem. These are only a few of the symptoms that a person may have a problem with drinking. He THEN started snoring and for about 30 minutes I tried to ignore it, but was just getting increasingly more annoyed with each breath he took. She thought she had just peed her pants, but it kept happening everytime she stood upso off we went to the hospital, and she was definately in labor. He would still have had alcohol in his system and in hindsight, a cab or ambulance would have been a better mode of transport. My wife was not pleased. The love and support of your family can help you cope during this difficult time and give you the encouragement you need to get back on track. Both those incidents still come up at family get togethers. We get down to the car and he gets in the passenger side! He said okay, proceded to go hook up the horse trailer, load his horses and tell me that he was going to a branding. Have you thought about what your day-to-day lifewill be like? Medicated: Yes. First is, do you have a backup person who can be there for you? Im late to the party but here is a story for you I even brought him the timer and paper and pen, so he wouldnt have to get up. She all but collapses into my arms exhausted to the point she couldn't even walk to the bedroom. Maintaining a positive mindset and a hopeful attitude can be difficult at times when you are dealing with an addiction problem. According to the World Health Organisation, around 2% of adults globally have a drinking problem thats over one billion people! Since I had to have a c-section he stayed in the hospital with me the 3 days sleeping on the couch and changed ALL the diapers.